12 November 2007

Woman to Woman: Infertility and recurrent loss

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Today's topic is going mean so much more to some of us than others. Infertility is one of those issues that you may not know how to respond to if you don't have any intimate experience with it. When your body works and another woman's does not, you may feel guilty around them, or you may wonder how it is that God's greatest creation - that which was intended for multiplying and replenishing His earth - can have so many flaws that poise such great mysteries. You may not know how to comfort them. You may have a desire to find some common ground with them, only to realize that one or two miscarriages pale in comparison to their muliple losses. There are women who spend most of their adult lives trying to conceive just one child while others only need to glance in their husband's direction to get pregnant. I know just from watching others deal with it, that infertility is one of the most most heart wrenching challenges for women. And I have a few MOFS, as well as a cousin, who could go into much more detail about that then I. I've personally invited some of them to participate in today's topics, and as they add their links below, I'll be pointing them out... because they will say what I cannot. They know what I do not and never will know. It is important for us to hear the personal thoughts of the women who've got real experience with this. It may be the difference between us helping or hurting someone who'll need us to lean on and to understand, at least to an exent, the heartache they feel.

I went through a few of MOFs blogs and found (with their permission):
Olivia: http://addingonemore.blogspot.com/2007/03/sorry-so-boring.html
Jennifer: http://lordsofthemanor.blogspot.com/2007/09/supporting-grieving-process.html
Rachelle: http://teachergoingmad.blogspot.com/2006/12/happy-blogoversary-to-me.html

I'dalso like to point out below the links to Darci, Dawnyel and Alaina who participated in Woman toWoman because I begged them to share their experiences :)... and to everyone, thanks for putting yourself out there. I know it's not easy.

Be sure and visit my co-host, Morning Glory, for more posts on this topic.

15 comments:

An Ordinary Mom said...

Thanks for tackling this topic. It was very therapeutic for me to write this.

Morning Glory said...

This was a hard one for me to wrap my thoughts around because I can't personally relate. But I'm sure it's going to be very valuable for a lot of women.

Denise said...

Bless you for dealing with this topic.

Angela said...

At this time I can't write on the topic with all this brain fog....however perhaps God will give me the words to relate with others through their posts.

This is a needed topic and concern for many women. Thanks for having our woman to woman sessions.

Have a Blessed day filled with lots of love and laughter!
Angela

Jen said...

Great topic. I'm not going to blog about it today, because I have talked about it a ton lately. Today I posted on healing, which is interrelated.

Darci said...

Thank you for doing this. It is so hard for people to relate when they haven't been through this and it is good to hear others who have.

Dawnyel said...

Thanks for making me THINK about this!! :)
I'm not sure it's EXACTLY what you were hoping for, but I posted ANY and ALL thoughts I had on the topic!
Thanks again!!

Scribbit said...

I couldn't bring myself to post on my own experiences with this (I'm not as brave as these others) but I really appreciated those who did tackle it. Some great posts on a tought topic.

Me, myself & I said...

You are welcomed to use a link from mine though I'm not sure what you would share. I've posted so much about it, and with the upcoming surgery... I feel more like nothing matters much anymore anyhow. I admit, I'm quite negative, or perhaps it's more like "how many more times can a bus run over me?"

I'll have to think of how to post for this... thanks for looking for me Lei.. I'm here- just not in a good place "here."

Crystal said...

It's taking me some time, but I am working on writing a post for this. It's just a hard topic, but I'm glad you are addressing it.

Zoe said...

Lei, are you okay? I haven't heard from you in a while so I just wanted to make sure that all is well on the homefront! Miss you!!

Lee said...

I am just dropping in to say hi. I miss you and hope that things are going well. ((hugs))

Yvonne said...

Lei: Just wondering if you are o.k?

Belladonna said...

It has been a while since this last post - just dropping by to let you know that you are thought of often and missed in the blogoshpere. Many wishes for a Merry Christmas for you and your family.

Blackeyedsue said...

Just so you know, I miss you.